Plan for time to communicate openly and honestly. This is the foundation of any good relationship. Set aside time for a "walk and talk" or "a sit and chat." Talk to your partner about your thoughts, feelings, and needs. Be honest and use a regulated tone with each other, even when it's difficult.
Make time to connect. Make time for each other, even when busy. Set aside 10 minutes a day for an "upload and download," giving each other five minutes of uninterrupted listening! Regularly, go on dates, take walks together, eat lunch alone together or just cuddle on the couch.
Be supportive of each other. Be there for your partner when they need you. Listen to them when they're going through a tough time. Offer your support and encouragement. Remember to check-in and follow-up. Empathize.
Be willing to repair and forgive. Everyone makes mistakes. If your partner does something that hurts you, let them know and offer a repair opportunity. Try to forgive them. Holding on to anger and resentment will only hurt your relationship long term. Address things as they arise and avoid letting things build up.
Be patient. Relationships take time to build and grow. Don't expect everything to be perfect all the time. Be patient with each other and with the process of building a strong relationship. It also allows each other to have time to reflect and initiate a repair, if needed.
Be grateful. Share appreciations frequently. Let your partner know how something made you feel, such as "I felt supported when you emptied the dishwasher." Or, "When you cooked dinner for us, I felt loved." Let your partner know how much you appreciate them. Gratitude will help to keep your relationship strong and healthy.
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