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Articles of Interest

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Topic: Media and Parenting

1. "The Phone in the Room" - https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/27/briefing/phones-mental-health.html?searchResultPosition=1
Description: Practical advice to consider the developmental age of your adolescent/teen and setting boundaries on where to use the phone. 

2. "How to Cut Children's Screen Time? Say No to Yourself First" - http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/07/13/how-to-cut-childrens-screen-time-say-no-to-yourself-first/ action=click&pg&region=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=11. 
Description: Parents are endangering children emotionally, cognitively and physically...and can learn to self-regulate to change it all!

3. "Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/11/fashion/steve-jobs-apple-was-a-low-tech-parent.html?action=click&pgHomepage&region=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=1
Description: High tech execs are low tech parents, rethinking screen use and limits for children.

4. "Video Games and Your Child's Brain" - http://www.whatsfordinner.net/articles/Video-Games-and-Your-Childs-Brain.html
Description: Children are influenced by playing video games, understanding the "how and why," can help when you set limits.

5. Upworthy.com, "Wow, A Simple Set of Steps to Stop Cyberbullying From Happening to Your Kid" - http://www.upworthy.com/wow-a-super-simple-set-of-steps-to-stop-cyberbullying-from-happening-to-your-kid-5?c=upw1
Description: An illustrated video to share with parents and children about what to do when cyberbullying happens.

6. "In Constant Digital Contact, We Feel 'Alone Together" - http://www.npr.org/2012/10/18/163098594/in-constant-digital-contact-we-feel-alone-together
Description: An interview on NPR with Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together discusses communication changes with technology.

7. "Spring Cleaning Your Family's Media Habits: A How-to Guide" - http://www.commonsensemedia.org/new/spring-cleaning-your-familys-media-habits-how-guide#.T38bmcuF7Fs.email
Description: Common Sense Media is the "go-to" resource to understand what your child is watching and whether or not is is age appropriate.

Topic: Parenting
1.  "How to raise a brilliant child without screwing them up" - http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/feb/27/how-to-raise-a-brilliant-child-without-screwing-them-up
Description: It's not all about the genes and perfect parenting, rather nurturing parenting. 

2. "Why Children Need Chores" - http://www.wsj.com/articles/why-children-need-chores-1426262655
Description: The benefit of chores teaches children to develop empathy and care for others, amongst other things.

3. "Raising a Moral Child" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/04/12/opinion/sunday/raising-a-moral-child.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1
Description: A look at how parenting shapes your child's character development, as well as your own.

4. "Why Fathers Really Matter" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/09/opinion/sunday/why-fathers-really-matter.html?_r=2&
Description: Epigenetics explains why the well-being of children depends on both mother and father's health.


5. "Random Bedtimes Breed Bad Behavior In Kids" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/10/15/234683175/random-bedtimes-breed-bad-behavior-in-kids?sc=17&f=1001
Description: A look at the science that supports establishing and following a regular bedtime for better behavior in kids.

6."Spoiled Rotten Why do kids rule the roost? by Elizabeth Kolbert" http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/books/2012/07/02/120702crbo_books_kolbert
Description: An interesting comparison of cultures sheds light on the American modern-life pattern of over-parenting.

7. "What's Behind A Temper Tantrum? Scientists Deconstruct the Screams" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/12/05/143062378/whats-behind-a-temper-tantrum-scientists-deconstruct-the-screams
Description: This audio shares new information to understand temper tantrums and give practical intervention.

8. "Why a Teen Who Talks Back May Have A Bright Future" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/01/03/144495483/why-a-teen-who-talks-back-may-have-a-bright-future
Description: This brief article explains why teens who argue with parents can make better choices with peers.

9. "Good Habits Start Early: Teaching Kids to Clean" - http://www.bbcleaningservice.com/teaching-kids-to-clean.html
Description: This article has great ideas and tips for enlisting kids to do chores well!

10. "The Surprising Secret to Raising a Well-Behaved Kid" - www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/behavioral/get-a-well-behaved-kid/?utm_campaign=pmm_trueanthem_evergreen&utm_content=598638db04d301679e379b74&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter
Description: Teaching independence fosters improved regulation and behavior in kids.

Topic: Parenting in the Pandemic 
"A Week of Snow Days'? Ha! Families Deal with Cabin Fever" - 
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/25/business/coronavirus-families-cabin-fever.html?auth=login-email&login=email
​Description: Parents go to some extremes to entertain kids at home, while staying sane. Maryellen Mullin was consulted and is quoted in this article. ​

​Topic: Relationships

1. "How to Save Money in a Relationship According to Experts"  - https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-save-money-in-a-relationship-according-to-experts-18138773
Description: Experts way in on easy tips to save together. Maryellen Mullin was contributed to and is quoted in this article.

2. What's your attachment stye in an intimate relationship?  - http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Description: R. Chris Fraley, PhD, a Professor at the University of Illinois designed this assessment for interest and educational purposes.

3. The Gottman Relationship Blog - http://www.gottmanblog.com/
Description: John and Julie Gottman host this blog with sound, researched-based relationship advice that is both practical and accessible!

4. "New Love - A Short Shelf Life" -
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/02/opinion/sunday/new-love-a-short-shelf-life.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0&ref=general&src=me
Description: While the honeymoon phase may not last, lasting love does with some support and surprise!

Topic: Sibling Relationships
1. "When Siblings Fight, Should You Step In?" - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peggy-drexler/when-siblings-fight-shoul_b_1992302.html
Description: Dr. Peggy Drexler advises parents to support, not direct sibling relationships.

Topic: School Success for Children
1."What if the Secret to Success Is Failure?" - http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/18/magazine/what-if-the-secret-to-success-is-failure.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&ref=magazine
Description: New research at how "grit" is a determining factor for success; teaching character education in schools is equally, if not more important than academics.

2. "Giving Disorganized Boys the Tools for Success" - http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/01/education/01boys.html?pagewanted=all
Description: A brief article looks at how taking time to help a student get organized will pay off in school.

3. "The Psych Approach" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/28/opinion/brooks-the-psych-approach.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1&
Description: An interesting NY Times opinion by David Brooks on Paul Tough’s  book, “How Children Succeed.”

Topic: Wellness Information for Modern Life

1. "Fifteen Little Signs You Aren't Being Fully Authentic Every Day" - 
https://www.bustle.com/p/15-little-signs-you-arent-being-fully-authentic-every-day-73784
Description: Ways to change habits and be true to yourself, for more connection with others. Maryellen Mullin contributed to and is quoted in this article.

2. "The Long Conversation" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/06/02/the-long-conversation/?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&module=opinion-c-col-right-region&region=opinion-c-col-right-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-right-region&_r=1
Description: A personal look at the benefits of long-term therapeutic support.

3. "Why Saying is Believing - The New Science of Self-Talk" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/10/07/353292408/why-saying-is-believing-the-science-of-self-talk
Description: Using a specific kind of third-person self-talk can help you see yourself in an accepting and compassionate way.

4. "Editing Your Life's Stories Can Create Happier Endings" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/01/01/258674011/editing-your-lifes-stories-can-create-happier-endings?sc=17&f=1001
Description: How a simple method of writing can help you redirect how you react and respond to events.

5. "The 12 Cognitive Biases that prevent you from being rational" - http://io9.com/5974468/the-most-common-cognitive-biases-that-prevent-you-from-being-rational?utm_source=gawker.com&utm_medium=recirculation&utm_campaign=recirculation
Description: Understanding how your mind works may open your understanding of yourself and others.

6. "The Anxious Idiot" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/08/11/the-anxious-idiot/?src=me&ref=general
Description: An interesting explanation and understanding of the how to look at anxiety and hope for those who think they can't do a thing to change.
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