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Articles of Interest
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Topic: Parenting in the Pandemic (COVID-19)
1. "A Week of Snow Days'? Ha! Families Deal with Cabin Fever" -
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/25/business/coronavirus-families-cabin-fever.html?auth=login-email&login=email
Description: Parents go to some extremes to entertain kids at home, while staying sane. Maryellen Mullin was consulted and is quoted in this article.
2: Messy Parenting: My Kids are Home and I Need Help - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/messy-parenting-my-kids-are-home-and-i-need-help-tickets-100225733868www.eventbrite.com/e/messy-parenting-my-kids-are-home-and-i-need-help-tickets-100225733868
Description: Parents get support on a "live" webinar with Maryellen Mullin, founder of Messy Parenting: Progress Not Perfection ® and San Francisco Family Therapy on supporting parents through the transition of sheltering-in, including how to emotion coach your kids and support positive behavior.
Topic: Media and Parenting
1. "How to Cut Children's Screen Time? Say No to Yourself First" - http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/07/13/how-to-cut-childrens-screen-time-say-no-to-yourself-first/ action=click&pg®ion=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=11.
Description: Parents are endangering children emotionally, cognitively and physically...and can learn to self-regulate to change it all!
2. "Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/11/fashion/steve-jobs-apple-was-a-low-tech-parent.html?action=click&pgHomepage®ion=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=1
Description: High tech execs are low tech parents, rethinking screen use and limits for children.
3. "Video Games and Your Child's Brain" - http://www.whatsfordinner.net/articles/Video-Games-and-Your-Childs-Brain.html
Description: Children are influenced by playing video games, understanding the "how and why," can help when you set limits.
4. "Violent Video Games Alter Brain Functions in Young Men" - http://communications.medicine.iu.edu/newsroom/stories/2011/violent-video-games-alter-brain-function-in-young-men/
Description: A brief articles describes a research study demonstrating clinical effects of violent video games on the brains of young men.
5. Upworthy.com, "Wow, A Simple Set of Steps to Stop Cyberbullying From Happening to Your Kid" - http://www.upworthy.com/wow-a-super-simple-set-of-steps-to-stop-cyberbullying-from-happening-to-your-kid-5?c=upw1
Description: An illustrated video to share with parents and children about what to do when cyberbullying happens.
6. "Miss Representation.org's Conversation Starters" - http://www.missrepresentation.org/take-action/conversation-starters/
Description: Miss Representation.org teams up with Common Sense Media, providing tools for parents and adolescents to navigate the influence of media on youth.
7. "In Constant Digital Contact, We Feel 'Alone Together" - http://www.npr.org/2012/10/18/163098594/in-constant-digital-contact-we-feel-alone-together
Description: An interview on NPR with Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together discusses communication changes with technology.
8. "Spring Cleaning Your Family's Media Habits: A How-to Guide" - http://www.commonsensemedia.org/new/spring-cleaning-your-familys-media-habits-how-guide#.T38bmcuF7Fs.email
Description: Common Sense Media is the "go-to" resource to understand what your child is watching and whether or not is is age appropriate.
9. Internet Safety - Katherine Delmar Burke's School in San Francisco has a terrific page of online resources for parents and students, as well as, a "Digital Citizenship Agreement." - http://www.kdbs.org/node/3078
Topic: Parenting
1. "How to raise a brilliant child without screwing them up" - http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/feb/27/how-to-raise-a-brilliant-child-without-screwing-them-up
Description: It's not all about the genes and perfect parenting, rather nurturing parenting.
2. "Why Children Need Chores" - http://www.wsj.com/articles/why-children-need-chores-1426262655
Description: The benefit of chores teaches children to develop empathy and care for others, amongst other things.
3. "Raising a Moral Child" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/04/12/opinion/sunday/raising-a-moral-child.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1
Description: A look at how parenting shapes your child's character development, as well as your own.
4. "Why Fathers Really Matter" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/09/opinion/sunday/why-fathers-really-matter.html?_r=2&
Description: Epigenetics explains why the well-being of children depends on both mother and father's health.
5. "Random Bedtimes Breed Bad Behavior In Kids" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/10/15/234683175/random-bedtimes-breed-bad-behavior-in-kids?sc=17&f=1001
Description: A look at the science that supports establishing and following a regular bedtime for better behavior in kids.
6."Spoiled Rotten Why do kids rule the roost? by Elizabeth Kolbert" http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/books/2012/07/02/120702crbo_books_kolbert
Description: An interesting comparison of cultures sheds light on the American modern-life pattern of over-parenting.
7. "What's Behind A Temper Tantrum? Scientists Deconstruct the Screams" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/12/05/143062378/whats-behind-a-temper-tantrum-scientists-deconstruct-the-screams
Description: This audio shares new information to understand temper tantrums and give practical intervention.
8. "Why a Teen Who Talks Back May Have A Bright Future" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/01/03/144495483/why-a-teen-who-talks-back-may-have-a-bright-future
Description: This brief article explains why teens who argue with parents can make better choices with peers.
9. "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy" - http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/print/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/
Description: This article discusses over-parenting and may help parents worry less about having to be perfect.
10. "Good Habits Start Early: Teaching Kids to Clean" - http://www.bbcleaningservice.com/teaching-kids-to-clean.html
Description: This article has great ideas and tips for enlisting kids to do chores well!
11. "The Surprising Secret to Raising a Well-Behaved Kid" - www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/behavioral/get-a-well-behaved-kid/?utm_campaign=pmm_trueanthem_evergreen&utm_content=598638db04d301679e379b74&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter
Description: Teaching independence fosters improved regulation and behavior in kids.
Topic: Relationships
1. "How to Save Money in a Relationship According to Experts" - https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-save-money-in-a-relationship-according-to-experts-18138773
Description: Experts way in on easy tips to save together. Maryellen Mullin was contributed to and is quoted in this article.
2. What's your attachment stye in an intimate relationship? - http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Description: R. Chris Fraley, PhD, a Professor at the University of Illinois designed this assessment for interest and educational purposes.
3. The Gottman Relationship Blog - http://www.gottmanblog.com/
Description: John and Julie Gottman host this blog with sound, researched-based relationship advice that is both practical and accessible!
4. "New Love - A Short Shelf Life" -
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/02/opinion/sunday/new-love-a-short-shelf-life.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0&ref=general&src=me
Description: While the honeymoon phase may not last, lasting love does with some support and surprise!
Topic: Sibling Relationships
1. "When Siblings Fight, Should You Step In?" - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peggy-drexler/when-siblings-fight-shoul_b_1992302.html
Description: Dr. Peggy Drexler advises parents to support, not direct sibling relationships.
Topic: School Success for Children
1."What if the Secret to Success Is Failure?" - http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/18/magazine/what-if-the-secret-to-success-is-failure.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&ref=magazine
Description: New research at how "grit" is a determining factor for success; teaching character education in schools is equally, if not more important than academics.
2. "Giving Disorganized Boys the Tools for Success" - http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/01/education/01boys.html?pagewanted=all
Description: A brief article looks at how taking time to help a student get organized will pay off in school.
3. "The Psych Approach" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/28/opinion/brooks-the-psych-approach.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1&
Description: An interesting NY Times opinion by David Brooks on Paul Tough’s book, “How Children Succeed.”
Topic: Wellness Information for Modern Life
1. "Fifteen Little Signs You Aren't Being Fully Authentic Every Day" -
https://www.bustle.com/p/15-little-signs-you-arent-being-fully-authentic-every-day-73784
Description: Ways to change habits and be true to yourself, for more connection with others. Maryellen Mullin contributed to and is quoted in this article.
2. "The Long Conversation" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/06/02/the-long-conversation/?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&module=opinion-c-col-right-region®ion=opinion-c-col-right-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-right-region&_r=1
Description: A personal look at the benefits of long-term therapeutic support.
3. "Why Saying is Believing - The New Science of Self-Talk" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/10/07/353292408/why-saying-is-believing-the-science-of-self-talk
Description: Using a specific kind of third-person self-talk can help you see yourself in an accepting and compassionate way.
4. "Editing Your Life's Stories Can Create Happier Endings" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/01/01/258674011/editing-your-lifes-stories-can-create-happier-endings?sc=17&f=1001
Description: How a simple method of writing can help you redirect how you react and respond to events.
5. "The 12 Cognitive Biases that prevent you from being rational" - http://io9.com/5974468/the-most-common-cognitive-biases-that-prevent-you-from-being-rational?utm_source=gawker.com&utm_medium=recirculation&utm_campaign=recirculation
Description: Understanding how your mind works may open your understanding of yourself and others.
6. "Up All Night The science of sleeplessness." - http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/03/11/130311fa_fact_kolbert#ixzz2NS5zUPLK
Description: Pay attention to the science of sleep to enhance the quality of your life.
7. "The Joy of Quiet" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/opinion/sunday/the-joy-of-quiet.html?pagewanted=1&ref=general&src=me&_r=0
Description: In modern life, there are real reasons why we need to slow down.
8. "Do You Suffer From Decision Fatigue?" - http://www.nytimes.com/2011/08/21/magazine/do-you-suffer-from-decision- fatigue.html?pagewanted=1&ref=magazine
Description: Decision fatigue examined; how it affects everyone on personal, career, social and political levels. A must read.
9. "Wonder Dog - A Golden Retriever Reaches a Raging Boy" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/05/magazine/wonder-dog.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&ref=general&src=me
Description: A heartwarming article about an autistic boy who is able to connect with a dog, allowing him to feel understood and improve his communication and relationships with others.
10. "The Anxious Idiot" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/08/11/the-anxious-idiot/?src=me&ref=general
Description: An interesting explanation and understanding of the how to look at anxiety and hope for those who think they can't do a thing to change.
1. "A Week of Snow Days'? Ha! Families Deal with Cabin Fever" -
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/25/business/coronavirus-families-cabin-fever.html?auth=login-email&login=email
Description: Parents go to some extremes to entertain kids at home, while staying sane. Maryellen Mullin was consulted and is quoted in this article.
2: Messy Parenting: My Kids are Home and I Need Help - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/messy-parenting-my-kids-are-home-and-i-need-help-tickets-100225733868www.eventbrite.com/e/messy-parenting-my-kids-are-home-and-i-need-help-tickets-100225733868
Description: Parents get support on a "live" webinar with Maryellen Mullin, founder of Messy Parenting: Progress Not Perfection ® and San Francisco Family Therapy on supporting parents through the transition of sheltering-in, including how to emotion coach your kids and support positive behavior.
Topic: Media and Parenting
1. "How to Cut Children's Screen Time? Say No to Yourself First" - http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/07/13/how-to-cut-childrens-screen-time-say-no-to-yourself-first/ action=click&pg®ion=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=11.
Description: Parents are endangering children emotionally, cognitively and physically...and can learn to self-regulate to change it all!
2. "Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/11/fashion/steve-jobs-apple-was-a-low-tech-parent.html?action=click&pgHomepage®ion=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=1
Description: High tech execs are low tech parents, rethinking screen use and limits for children.
3. "Video Games and Your Child's Brain" - http://www.whatsfordinner.net/articles/Video-Games-and-Your-Childs-Brain.html
Description: Children are influenced by playing video games, understanding the "how and why," can help when you set limits.
4. "Violent Video Games Alter Brain Functions in Young Men" - http://communications.medicine.iu.edu/newsroom/stories/2011/violent-video-games-alter-brain-function-in-young-men/
Description: A brief articles describes a research study demonstrating clinical effects of violent video games on the brains of young men.
5. Upworthy.com, "Wow, A Simple Set of Steps to Stop Cyberbullying From Happening to Your Kid" - http://www.upworthy.com/wow-a-super-simple-set-of-steps-to-stop-cyberbullying-from-happening-to-your-kid-5?c=upw1
Description: An illustrated video to share with parents and children about what to do when cyberbullying happens.
6. "Miss Representation.org's Conversation Starters" - http://www.missrepresentation.org/take-action/conversation-starters/
Description: Miss Representation.org teams up with Common Sense Media, providing tools for parents and adolescents to navigate the influence of media on youth.
7. "In Constant Digital Contact, We Feel 'Alone Together" - http://www.npr.org/2012/10/18/163098594/in-constant-digital-contact-we-feel-alone-together
Description: An interview on NPR with Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together discusses communication changes with technology.
8. "Spring Cleaning Your Family's Media Habits: A How-to Guide" - http://www.commonsensemedia.org/new/spring-cleaning-your-familys-media-habits-how-guide#.T38bmcuF7Fs.email
Description: Common Sense Media is the "go-to" resource to understand what your child is watching and whether or not is is age appropriate.
9. Internet Safety - Katherine Delmar Burke's School in San Francisco has a terrific page of online resources for parents and students, as well as, a "Digital Citizenship Agreement." - http://www.kdbs.org/node/3078
Topic: Parenting
1. "How to raise a brilliant child without screwing them up" - http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/feb/27/how-to-raise-a-brilliant-child-without-screwing-them-up
Description: It's not all about the genes and perfect parenting, rather nurturing parenting.
2. "Why Children Need Chores" - http://www.wsj.com/articles/why-children-need-chores-1426262655
Description: The benefit of chores teaches children to develop empathy and care for others, amongst other things.
3. "Raising a Moral Child" - http://www.nytimes.com/2014/04/12/opinion/sunday/raising-a-moral-child.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1
Description: A look at how parenting shapes your child's character development, as well as your own.
4. "Why Fathers Really Matter" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/09/opinion/sunday/why-fathers-really-matter.html?_r=2&
Description: Epigenetics explains why the well-being of children depends on both mother and father's health.
5. "Random Bedtimes Breed Bad Behavior In Kids" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/10/15/234683175/random-bedtimes-breed-bad-behavior-in-kids?sc=17&f=1001
Description: A look at the science that supports establishing and following a regular bedtime for better behavior in kids.
6."Spoiled Rotten Why do kids rule the roost? by Elizabeth Kolbert" http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/books/2012/07/02/120702crbo_books_kolbert
Description: An interesting comparison of cultures sheds light on the American modern-life pattern of over-parenting.
7. "What's Behind A Temper Tantrum? Scientists Deconstruct the Screams" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/12/05/143062378/whats-behind-a-temper-tantrum-scientists-deconstruct-the-screams
Description: This audio shares new information to understand temper tantrums and give practical intervention.
8. "Why a Teen Who Talks Back May Have A Bright Future" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/01/03/144495483/why-a-teen-who-talks-back-may-have-a-bright-future
Description: This brief article explains why teens who argue with parents can make better choices with peers.
9. "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy" - http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/print/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/
Description: This article discusses over-parenting and may help parents worry less about having to be perfect.
10. "Good Habits Start Early: Teaching Kids to Clean" - http://www.bbcleaningservice.com/teaching-kids-to-clean.html
Description: This article has great ideas and tips for enlisting kids to do chores well!
11. "The Surprising Secret to Raising a Well-Behaved Kid" - www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/behavioral/get-a-well-behaved-kid/?utm_campaign=pmm_trueanthem_evergreen&utm_content=598638db04d301679e379b74&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter
Description: Teaching independence fosters improved regulation and behavior in kids.
Topic: Relationships
1. "How to Save Money in a Relationship According to Experts" - https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-save-money-in-a-relationship-according-to-experts-18138773
Description: Experts way in on easy tips to save together. Maryellen Mullin was contributed to and is quoted in this article.
2. What's your attachment stye in an intimate relationship? - http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Description: R. Chris Fraley, PhD, a Professor at the University of Illinois designed this assessment for interest and educational purposes.
3. The Gottman Relationship Blog - http://www.gottmanblog.com/
Description: John and Julie Gottman host this blog with sound, researched-based relationship advice that is both practical and accessible!
4. "New Love - A Short Shelf Life" -
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/02/opinion/sunday/new-love-a-short-shelf-life.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0&ref=general&src=me
Description: While the honeymoon phase may not last, lasting love does with some support and surprise!
Topic: Sibling Relationships
1. "When Siblings Fight, Should You Step In?" - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peggy-drexler/when-siblings-fight-shoul_b_1992302.html
Description: Dr. Peggy Drexler advises parents to support, not direct sibling relationships.
Topic: School Success for Children
1."What if the Secret to Success Is Failure?" - http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/18/magazine/what-if-the-secret-to-success-is-failure.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&ref=magazine
Description: New research at how "grit" is a determining factor for success; teaching character education in schools is equally, if not more important than academics.
2. "Giving Disorganized Boys the Tools for Success" - http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/01/education/01boys.html?pagewanted=all
Description: A brief article looks at how taking time to help a student get organized will pay off in school.
3. "The Psych Approach" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/28/opinion/brooks-the-psych-approach.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1&
Description: An interesting NY Times opinion by David Brooks on Paul Tough’s book, “How Children Succeed.”
Topic: Wellness Information for Modern Life
1. "Fifteen Little Signs You Aren't Being Fully Authentic Every Day" -
https://www.bustle.com/p/15-little-signs-you-arent-being-fully-authentic-every-day-73784
Description: Ways to change habits and be true to yourself, for more connection with others. Maryellen Mullin contributed to and is quoted in this article.
2. "The Long Conversation" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/06/02/the-long-conversation/?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&module=opinion-c-col-right-region®ion=opinion-c-col-right-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-right-region&_r=1
Description: A personal look at the benefits of long-term therapeutic support.
3. "Why Saying is Believing - The New Science of Self-Talk" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/10/07/353292408/why-saying-is-believing-the-science-of-self-talk
Description: Using a specific kind of third-person self-talk can help you see yourself in an accepting and compassionate way.
4. "Editing Your Life's Stories Can Create Happier Endings" - http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/01/01/258674011/editing-your-lifes-stories-can-create-happier-endings?sc=17&f=1001
Description: How a simple method of writing can help you redirect how you react and respond to events.
5. "The 12 Cognitive Biases that prevent you from being rational" - http://io9.com/5974468/the-most-common-cognitive-biases-that-prevent-you-from-being-rational?utm_source=gawker.com&utm_medium=recirculation&utm_campaign=recirculation
Description: Understanding how your mind works may open your understanding of yourself and others.
6. "Up All Night The science of sleeplessness." - http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/03/11/130311fa_fact_kolbert#ixzz2NS5zUPLK
Description: Pay attention to the science of sleep to enhance the quality of your life.
7. "The Joy of Quiet" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/opinion/sunday/the-joy-of-quiet.html?pagewanted=1&ref=general&src=me&_r=0
Description: In modern life, there are real reasons why we need to slow down.
8. "Do You Suffer From Decision Fatigue?" - http://www.nytimes.com/2011/08/21/magazine/do-you-suffer-from-decision- fatigue.html?pagewanted=1&ref=magazine
Description: Decision fatigue examined; how it affects everyone on personal, career, social and political levels. A must read.
9. "Wonder Dog - A Golden Retriever Reaches a Raging Boy" - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/05/magazine/wonder-dog.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&ref=general&src=me
Description: A heartwarming article about an autistic boy who is able to connect with a dog, allowing him to feel understood and improve his communication and relationships with others.
10. "The Anxious Idiot" - http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/08/11/the-anxious-idiot/?src=me&ref=general
Description: An interesting explanation and understanding of the how to look at anxiety and hope for those who think they can't do a thing to change.